Our Guide

Everytime we celebrate our monthsary, we see to it that we read and talk about this simple article / guidelines on how to have an ideal relationship...

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HOW TO HAVE AN IDEAL RELATIONSHIP
By Lorrin Lee


A relationship is a natural, logical and harmonious association. This happens when people want to be with each other and look forward to sharing goals, time and activities together.


1. TALK. Always in pleasant tones. No shouting or swearing at each other. Speak only positive words with gentleness and kindness. Communicate daily. This is the highest and most caring form of love.

2. WALK TOGETHER MORE. Take 30 minutes a day. To exercise, communicate, release emotions, share ideas, goals, and to clear up any misunderstandings. It’s okay to hold hands, too.

3. DO NEW AND DIFFERENT ACTIVITIES TOGETHER. Enjoy a new restaurant, a different dish, a concert, a unique vacation, attend a class together--- something exciting both of you can plan and look forward to. Learn together and you’ll be happier

4. GIVE EACH OTHER GIFTS OFTEN. Like a magazine subscription, a special book, a warm bath and massage, flowers, surprise experiences, favourite foods and the many other special things your mate will enjoy and get excited about.

5. WRITE LOVE NOTES. Hide them around the home--- in clothing, pockets, in the kitchen drawer and secret places. Send some to his or her working place. Write a passionate love letter. Express your love in writing on exquisite stationery. Attach a gift certificate or a crispy P 1000 bill. Use your imagination and make it a fun surprise. And do it often.

6. DO NOT CRITICIZE, CONDEMN OR COMPLAIN! This is a NO-No. Only praise. Acknowledge the goodness in each other. There is no place for negativity in loving and lasting relationship ever! Your mate will do the right thing--- as you lead by example.

7. ACHIEVE AND MAINTAIN YOUR IDEAL FIGURE. It is a gift to yourself and your mate. A healthy and attractive body also promotes a healthy relationship.

8. ALLOW YOUR PARTNER TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OR HER LIFE. He or she has the right to determine his or her own destiny. Always respect that choice. Both of you can live your lives in your own way harmoniously. Treasure each other’s differences. Do your best to make life easier and more fun for your mate.

9. GROW TOGETHER. At the same speed and direction---by sharing similar ideas and activities. This will bond you together even more while building on fond memories. (People who don’t grow together will complete their relationship and move on to lead separate lives. This is why most people divorce.)

10. DO NOT BE POSSESSIVE. Don’t act as though you “own” your mate. Support, encourage each other’s way of living and individual interest. Be grateful in harmony.

11. TREASURE YOUR TIME TOGETHER. It could be your last. Look at it this way and you’ll always appreciate each other even more. Have no reason for regrets. Spend time with each other doing all the things you both lo0ved to do. Do it now! Tomorrow mat not come so together plan now for the best of the rest of your lives.

12. IT IS OKAY TO DO WHATEVER PLEASES BOTH OF YOU. In private, there are no limits on what you can do together with each other… as long as both benefit and agree. Whatever other people think of what you do or say is none of your business! So, go ahead experiment--- and satisfy each other to the limit!

13. BE OPEN. To the ideas, experiences and relationships. This is the way for fun, growth and expansion in you lives. The more you learn together… the happier you both will be.

14. FORGIVE AND LOVE. Release the past at every moment. Live in the present. Plan for the future ---together and joyously!

15. BE FREE OF RESENTMENT, ANGER, JEALOUSY, HATRED AND ENVY TOWARD EACH OTHER. This will open both of you to even greater respect for each other. Be thankful to your mate’s kindness.

16. ELIMINATE ARGUING TOTALLY. Anywhere, anytime. Especially while eating or in bed. Each person has a right to his or her opinion. Respect each other ideas, philosophy and outlook on life. Be a great listener!

17. SMILE AND LAUGH WITH EACH OTHER. A prescription for aliveness and health. Don’t take yourself or your mate too seriously. Lighten up and laugh more often. Remember, your smiles are true gift to each other.

18. LOOK INTO EACH OTHER’S EYES OFTEN. See the love, truth and beauty in your mate. The more you look into each other eyes the more you will love each other more deeply! Do this daily. It’s very powerful and fun.

19. TOUCH EACH OTHER TENDERLY EVERY DAY. Hug. Kiss. Caress. These are wonderful ways to show caring love. We all need it more than we care to admit!

20. DEVELOP A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE. Good food promotes a healthier state of mind for a more meaningful relationship. Eat lots of fruits, vegetables, whole wheat, grains, hi-fiber, low –fat, low calorie foods. Drink more water. Get more rest. Keep yourself cleansed, nourished and balanced.

21. KEEP YOUR HOME, CAR, KITHCEN, CLOSET AND ROOM --- SIMPLE, NEAT, CLEAN AND ORGANIZED. This will help promote a tranquil setting for greater peace and happiness in you lives. It really works! Begin this---today!

22. DRESS YOUR BEST. Be appropriate, neat, clean and proud of you appearance. How you look especially in public--- enhances your mat’s choice and appearance too.

23. SHARE IN FINANCIAL MATTERS. If you are married, communicate with each other on all you finances. If you have a family business be sure both are informed on profits, losses, expenses, etc. set your financial priorities together. This will help to strengthen your relationship which is built on trust and sharing. Enjoy building your financial future together. This is important.

24. ACCEPT EACH OTHER TOTALLY. Exactly the way both of you are. Do not try to change each other’s uniqueness. Allow your mate to change if and when he or she desires. This promotes everlasting peace.

25. SAY: “I LOVE YOU”. Daily, many times, especially when you wake up and before you go to sleep. Say it for the rest of your lives together. Never ever take love for granted. Express it verbally as well as with action. We all need to hear that magical phrase. It reaffirms how we feel at that moment. So fill you lives with millions of love by saying “I LOVE YOU.”